tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post4522455490415448813..comments2024-03-18T09:40:52.281-06:00Comments on Author Elana Johnson: Dealing With DisappointmentElana Johnsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05877856005992028912noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-51566340702335127492010-08-08T20:49:30.197-06:002010-08-08T20:49:30.197-06:00I deal with disappointment by remembering the time...I deal with disappointment by remembering the times I haven't been disappointed, and I give myself time to get over it. Chocolate never hurts. Neither does a glass of Pinot Grigio.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16028635002644119824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-88039914456742185072010-08-08T07:58:20.385-06:002010-08-08T07:58:20.385-06:00Elana, I just wanted to thank you for this post! ...Elana, I just wanted to thank you for this post! I read it last week while I was on vacation (on my phone, which epically *fails* on posting comments to Blogger 50% of the time).<br /><br />Now that I'm home again, I just wanted to say that your #4 on the list IS really important. I have a tendency to not allow myself any time before fighting back and trying to *fix* a disappointing event -- without giving myself any time for reflection.<br /><br />I also had some disappointing news recently, and then I immediately had to leave on vacation. It was frustrating -- but, as it turns out, the forced wait time turned out to be a good thing.<br /><br />Thanks for reminding me that a mental vacation from the problem is actually a useful thing.Dianne K. Salernihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16459839567235304842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-85963496378791378052010-08-04T16:31:00.855-06:002010-08-04T16:31:00.855-06:00I agree--giving myself time is the best way to get...I agree--giving myself time is the best way to get over disappointment. I try to do something different, like take an exercise class or a salsa lesson or go see a movie with a friend, just to snap myself out of it and come back refreshed. Thanks for sharing!Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00462382909938737612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-80665962411546905582010-08-04T00:18:09.900-06:002010-08-04T00:18:09.900-06:00I think the giving yourself time and distance from...I think the giving yourself time and distance from whatever's not going the way you want is really important. It's hard to not dwell on the bad, but the distance helps a lot for getting a new perspective.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your method. I totally agree, and friends and family definitely help a lot.Krispyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09492607213249874138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-40591379503454109692010-08-03T21:07:33.960-06:002010-08-03T21:07:33.960-06:00I turn to my kids. It never fails that they can br...I turn to my kids. It never fails that they can brighten the darkest days. We do crafts, go on an adventure, and eat chocolate and ice cream. <br /><br />Like most of you, I shut down from writing for a few days. Then I pick up what every letter gave me bad news or prospect that disappointed me and look at it in a new light. Like a student reading the marks of a teacher or and inventor going back and starting from scrath. I write, revise, and try again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-35000164137194425512010-08-03T19:08:17.772-06:002010-08-03T19:08:17.772-06:00I like the steps you outlined. Hugh Grant movies w...I like the steps you outlined. Hugh Grant movies work for me especially well - I like nearly everything he's been in, plus my husband enjoys them too, which is a bonus! I find sleep and reading a really good novel helps, too.Belle Wonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12112894169429729531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-90823106163887805052010-08-03T19:04:25.065-06:002010-08-03T19:04:25.065-06:00I do something fun. I listen to my favorite upbeat...I do something fun. I listen to my favorite upbeat songs (I have a Keith Urban addiction so I've been listening to him lately), rant to my friends (privately), eat ice cream, and watch my favorites movies or TV shows (Doctor Who is awesome for pity parties). Then I wake up the next morning ready to do whatever it takes to get going again. <br /><br />Also, chocolate. I'm trying to cut down on that one.Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11918987890132222901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-9347641814806068442010-08-03T17:55:22.174-06:002010-08-03T17:55:22.174-06:00Read, garden, play a game with the kids.
Rejectio...Read, garden, play a game with the kids.<br /><br />Rejection used to sting until I learned to embrace it for another opportunity to become a better writer.<br /><br />When I get really down and funky I write poetry. Dark, scary, deep, horrifying poetry to purge the soul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-22803624842091511272010-08-03T16:57:05.147-06:002010-08-03T16:57:05.147-06:00Definitely in favor of the caramel popcorn! And sh...Definitely in favor of the caramel popcorn! And shutting off the computer to spend time with those we love is the best advice ever!Karen Jones Gowenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01153821980625034810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-36438957705970581072010-08-03T16:16:43.026-06:002010-08-03T16:16:43.026-06:00oh, dealing with it! constantly dealing with it. i...oh, dealing with it! constantly dealing with it. it's always great to get other people to tell me it's really not that bad!Tamara Hart Heinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07562765111202443160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-15440033605118442882010-08-03T15:02:21.101-06:002010-08-03T15:02:21.101-06:00My way of getting over disappointment involves cop...My way of getting over disappointment involves copius amounts of chocolate, or a hug from my goddaughter. Nothing like a toddler saying "love you" to make a gal feel better.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313619484424363895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-14457805408848115482010-08-03T15:02:01.379-06:002010-08-03T15:02:01.379-06:00Cry first. Then, since somebody already beat me to...Cry first. Then, since somebody already beat me to the chocolate in this house (as always)...my next best remedy is a walk. I need to get out and get moving - no treadmill allowed! Then I'll plop myself on the couch and watch a movie about some beautiful faraway place and try to get inspired again. A Mojito helps if its really bad ;)Carolyn Abiadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10567399129586443513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-70010196958563886152010-08-03T13:55:27.064-06:002010-08-03T13:55:27.064-06:00Hi Elena! I'm so glad I found your blog (and ...Hi Elena! I'm so glad I found your blog (and now I have to download "from the query to the call"-- ack--better late than never, right?). I love your method for dealing with disappointment. Mine involves making a HUGE carb-loaded and cheese-loaded pasta dinner, drinking some wine and watching mindless TV (umm, Hello Bachelorette) for hours until I feel better.Erin MacPhersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11665098986271579372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-79964558591190052222010-08-03T13:34:36.663-06:002010-08-03T13:34:36.663-06:00Breathing.Breathing.Robert Guthriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15618840090348189477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-5228781265318497432010-08-03T12:27:38.539-06:002010-08-03T12:27:38.539-06:00I think what you said is very true.
I usually call...I think what you said is very true.<br />I usually call up a friend if I can't speak with them in person or I call someone who really cares about me. I tell them all about it and then they tell me that's it okay.<br />I will turn on my favorite music so I'll ease up.<br />I'll write in my journal.<br />And when I'm all done with it I'll accept the disappointment and move on. <br />There's always tomorrow, and you never know what tomorrow will bring for you.<br />Happy writing,<br />LReneeSLindsey Richardsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05479405614100115901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-62971659167503064282010-08-03T11:56:37.796-06:002010-08-03T11:56:37.796-06:00I feel like crap for a little bit and then get bac...I feel like crap for a little bit and then get back to work. I'm just so freakin' practical.J.A. Palermohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18325616361174334630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-45708925821633372132010-08-03T11:43:18.068-06:002010-08-03T11:43:18.068-06:00I'm not sure Hugh Grant would help, but practi...I'm not sure Hugh Grant would help, but practicing my guitar always brings peace.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-9647955708373725032010-08-03T11:42:16.094-06:002010-08-03T11:42:16.094-06:00Fave Hugh Grant film: "About A Boy". Han...Fave Hugh Grant film: "About A Boy". Hands down.<br /><br />Yeah, time and spending time with friends helps. Shopping too...Kathryn Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05270893925385208665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-63481535758347446642010-08-03T11:33:16.638-06:002010-08-03T11:33:16.638-06:00I cry. Like until my eyes fall out. And I complain...I cry. Like until my eyes fall out. And I complain to anyone who'll listen. And then I move on.Candylandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08956196611348299424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-26962569024788381902010-08-03T10:35:26.845-06:002010-08-03T10:35:26.845-06:00Totally agree with you. Except... HUGH GRANT? Real...Totally agree with you. Except... HUGH GRANT? Really? ;)Tere Kirklandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13562750950130316280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-83355854464138546942010-08-03T10:25:33.370-06:002010-08-03T10:25:33.370-06:00For me, time is important. Some quiet time. Some t...For me, time is important. Some quiet time. Some time with family and friends. Some time spent outside.Paul Grecihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11340974339238587138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-4857291258140926562010-08-03T09:52:13.329-06:002010-08-03T09:52:13.329-06:00This is a great post. I think we need to remember ...This is a great post. I think we need to remember that all of us experience disappointment or setbacks at some time or another.<br /><br />As far as dealing with that disappointment, I do some things similar to what you've mentioned, but also like Deb mentioned, I'll take time away and focus on something else that I'm passionate about.Jessica Ann Hillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14131293013101275074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-35856385158052710502010-08-03T09:49:57.694-06:002010-08-03T09:49:57.694-06:00Thank you oh wise one. I needed this so much! I lo...Thank you oh wise one. I needed this so much! I love your method and am going to try it. :-)Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05130733681254163610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-70579685243020946812010-08-03T09:44:27.425-06:002010-08-03T09:44:27.425-06:00In times of disappointment I turn to homicidal rag...In times of disappointment I turn to homicidal rage. Just kidding! I'm pretty much like everyone else. A little Hagen Daz, some time with my pretend movie star boyfriend (who totally 'gets' me), and I eventually get my butt in gear again. :)<br /><a href="http://lisadgibson.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow"><strong>Lisa ~ YA Literature Lover</strong></a>Lisa_Gibsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17238496789960349077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9058478111996476699.post-89549133556618980052010-08-03T09:30:21.740-06:002010-08-03T09:30:21.740-06:00I need to take time, watch a fun chick flick or fa...I need to take time, watch a fun chick flick or fantasy show (Miss Congeniality & Serenity always work) and separate myself from the problem for a bit.Jemi Fraserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02214408467456320167noreply@blogger.com