Okay, so today is The Kindness Project. I joined up a couple of months ago, and you can find all the details and follow all of the amazing kindness in the links at the bottom of the post.
You know that old adage, "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all."? Yeah, that.
I think we need to follow that more. Sometimes it can be hard to find a kind word for someone that has hurt us, or that we perceive as undeserving of our kindness.
Because let's face it. Being kind is hard. Keeping your mouth shut is hard. Human nature tells us to argue, to make sure our point gets across. But it doesn't mean it's always the right thing to do. We all struggle with certain things, and the sooner we can identify those, the sooner we can start exhibiting kindness to those around us.
I think the Internet has made it easy to say something potentially hurtful. It's easier to vent about things and get validation. It's easier to trash talk about our husbands, our kids, our jobs, or our friends on twitter or Facebook where they won't see. (Read this if you don't believe me. Or search. CNN.com has tons of articles on Facebook, it's privacy settings, and how we should use and not use it.) Every post we put up is to get validation from those we call "friends," especially the venting or negative posts.
I don't think that's kindness. I think choosing to be positive in what you post online is an act of kindness. I think saying kind things and congratulating others--even when it's hard--shows kindness. That's what I've always tried to do, and when it's hard, I stay offline. Because sometimes to be kind, you have to follow the whole "don't say anything" bit.
Do you think social media has made it easier to be unkind?
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