I've blogged about it before. Twice, I think. Basically those posts made me feel better about my jealousy, because you all said you felt it too. Ha!
But this quote has helped me immensely in the past couple of weeks, and whether you're religious or not, maybe it'll help you. It was said by one of my favorite church leaders, Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, at our semi-annual conference on March 31.
Brothers and sisters, there are going to be times in our lives when someone else gets an unexpected blessing or receives some special recognition. May I plead with us not to be hurt—and certainly not to feel envious—when good fortune comes to another person? We are not diminished when someone else is added upon. We are not in a race against each other to see who is the wealthiest or the most talented or the most beautiful or even the most blessed. The race we are really in is the race against sin, and surely envy is one of the most universal of those.
Furthermore, envy is a mistake that just keeps on giving. Obviously we suffer a little when some misfortune befalls us, but envy requires us to suffer all good fortune that befalls everyone we know! What a bright prospect that is—downing another quart of pickle juice every time anyone around you has a happy moment! To say nothing of the chagrin in the end, when we find that God really is both just and merciful, giving to all who stand with Him “all that he hath,” as the scripture says (Luke 12:44). So lesson number one from the Lord’s vineyard: coveting, pouting, or tearing others down does not elevate your standing, nor does demeaning someone else improve your self-image. So be kind, and be grateful that God is kind. It is a happy way to live.
You can read the whole talk here.
Today, I'm not looking for the confirmation that you feel envy too. Just wondering who's in for more kindness, more gratitude, a more happy way to live?
Yeah, my hand is up.